5 Ways My Trip to Kenya Changed My Life

By Carmen Davis

Jewel Love and Jay Holmes are co-founders of Black Executive Men Capital Network.

Photo by: @kvonfoto

When Leroy, the Founder of Culture Travels Media, first mentioned that our team would have the opportunity to attend the Magical Kenya Travel Expo, I was overjoyed. It was a testament to how far we’d come as a media brand. But when he told me I’d be going in his place, I was at a loss for words.

A chance to visit Kenya, the Motherland, for the first time? It felt surreal. At the time, I was in a season of feeling stagnant and disconnected—from myself, my goals, and even the dreams I’d carried to New York City. Things weren’t unfolding the way I’d imagined. I hadn’t made the impact I hoped for, and I was still trying to find my footing in a new city that felt more intimidating than inspiring.

When Leroy gave me the opportunity, I kept my cool and said, “It would be an honor to represent Culture Travels.” But in my head, I was shouting: “We made it!” I couldn’t wait to tell my family and friends—it felt like the birthday gift I didn’t know I needed. That trip was not just a journey to Kenya but a transformative experience that has forever changed how I see the world and myself.

Here are five ways Kenya left an indelible mark on my heart.

The Power of Community

In every corner of Kenya, I witnessed a sense of community so deep it felt sacred. Whether it was the fishermen on Rusinga Island working together to pull in their nets, the spirited commuters boarding matatus in Nairobi, or the women I met at the Authentically You Conference uplifting one another with words of encouragement, it was clear: the strength of Kenya lies in its people.

There was no pretense or individualism as we often see in Western spaces. The interactions I observed—and participated in—were rooted in trust, respect, and a shared understanding of togetherness. It reminded me that the most powerful connections are built through mutual care and collaboration.

This sense of community extended to me, even as a visitor. I didn’t need to over-plan or stress about fitting in because, without even realizing it, I was part of something larger than myself—a collective spirit that welcomed me and made me feel at home.

I Wanted to Be a Better Woman

Spending time with the women of Kenya was transformative. These women were strong yet graceful, soft yet commanding, and deeply grounded in their self-respect. Whether they were leaders in their industries, nurturing mothers, or simply women holding space for one another, they exuded a quiet confidence that left a lasting impression on me.

Their example showed me that real power doesn’t need to yell to be heard. They taught me that calmness, dignity, and grace can have just as much—if not more—impact than boldness. These women reminded me to respect myself first and foremost, to set boundaries, and to never allow anyone to diminish my worth.

I left Kenya inspired to be a better version of myself—a more compassionate friend, a more supportive sister, and, one day, a more intentional wife.

I Felt Safer Than Ever

Before traveling to Kenya, I’ll admit I had some reservations about safety. The media often distorts Africa’s image, amplifying fear and overshadowing the truth. But from the moment I landed in Nairobi, those fears melted away.

Throughout my trip, I was embraced by people who treated me like family—even strangers. When I stayed with a friend of a friend during the final leg of my trip, I was overwhelmed by their hospitality. Despite us never having met before, they made sure I was comfortable, well-fed, and taken care of without expecting anything in return.

Kenya taught me that safety isn’t just about physical spaces—it’s about how the people around you make you feel. And in Kenya, I felt protected, welcomed, and deeply cared for.

Planting a Tree Was More Than a Gesture

Homa Bay

In Homa Bay, I planted a tree, and while it may seem like a simple act, it carried immense meaning. As I placed my hands in the soil, I thought about my own roots—the ones that connect me to my ancestors, to the land, and to the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

Kenya’s natural beauty was breathtaking: lush green landscapes, majestic wildlife, and pristine coastlines that stretched as far as the eye could see. But what struck me most was the reverence the people had for the land. It wasn’t just about existing alongside nature—it was about nurturing it.

That tree became a symbol of my time in Kenya—a reminder to stay grounded, honor where I come from, and focus on creating something meaningful that will outlast me.

The Diversity and Joy of Life in Kenya

Lamu

Kenya is a land of contrasts in the best possible way. It’s a country where bustling cities like Nairobi coexist with serene islands like Lamu. Where vibrant markets are filled with bold patterns and handmade crafts, and quiet coastal towns offer moments of peace.

The food was fresh, flavorful, and unforgettable—whether it was a simple plate of nyama choma (grilled meat) or a breakfast of mandazi (East African doughnuts) paired with chai. Every meal felt like an invitation to connect deeper with the culture.

From the colorful Matatus covered in pop culture art to the soulful music playing on the streets, Kenya radiates life, joy, and energy. It’s a place where diversity isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a way of being.

Kenya Changed Me in Ways I’m Still Discovering

It taught me about the strength of community, the beauty of self-respect, and the power of nurturing connections to people, places, and the earth itself. It was my first trip to the African continent, but it certainly won’t be my last. I left Kenya with more than memories—I left with lessons that will guide me for a lifetime.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, unsure, or disconnected from the world, let Kenya be your reminder that transformation is just one journey away.